DEAR ABBY: My stepson “Ryan” is an active senior in high school. He’s a great kid, and I love him. I’m proud and delighted that he says he loves my home-cooked meals.
My concern is Ryan eats his food at an alarming speed. His plate is nearly finished before anyone else has more than a couple bites of theirs. I don’t want to shame or embarrass him, but it seems unhealthy for his digestion and possibly even dangerous with certain foods. It’s also very unpleasant to watch.
Last night, Ryan inhaled an entire enchilada in two or three bites swallowed whole. He didn’t chew once. My husband will gently tell Ryan to slow down if I give him a well-timed look. Otherwise, he seems unfazed by it.
I feel bad saying this, but I’m grossed out and worried at the same time. Your guidance is appreciated. – COOKING STEPMOM IN THE WEST
DEAR STEPMOM: It is years late, but please have a serious talk with your husband about the fact that his son never learned basic table manners. He seems to not only be eating too much, but also too fast, which is visually unappealing as well as unhealthy.
Table manners are important. Not having them could have a negative impact on his social life and even his career in the future. Please point this out to your husband and to Ryan, because it’s important they both hear it. It may take reinforcement and constant reminding, so be prepared.
DEAR ABBY: My wife’s 90th birthday is coming up soon. Our younger daughter is giving her a birthday party at a nice restaurant and inviting only women. When I asked her why I wasn’t invited, she said the party will be “more fun” with only ladies. I don’t understand or agree with this. What do you think about her decision? I think it stinks. – NOT INVITED IN TEXAS
DEAR NOT INVITED: I “think” this decision should have been made by your wife as well as your daughter. At your ages, there’s no guarantee how many more birthdays you will have together, and for you to be summarily excluded seems wrong to me. I
Because this milestone birthday is one you would like to celebrate with your wife, why not take her out for a special dinner – just the two of you – or include your children, grandchildren, great-grandkids, etc., and make it a family affair?
